It lies within her, quiet and still. She has controlled it with the rusty hand of experience. That hand used to have a polished touch because it was used daily. It’s no longer used daily, but the touch remains, for which she is thankful.
The dark creature settles in like an old friend, finding the nooks and crannies it always filled when her surroundings were such that the light could never touch the spot within and stood no chance of finding its way to those deepest, darkest spots.
The darkness has many names, and our dear Emotion knows most of them.
Anxiety: the name given by those that catch glimpse of the darkness only when tensions are high, stakes are high, and the threat is unpredictable or unknown.
Depression: cried out by those for whom sadness has welled from a mere stream to a raging river.
Anger: the primal name for the fire that some see just below the surface of the darkness.
Pain: this name is provided for the darkness both in times of provocation from without as well as from within. When called by this name, it is assured that the darkness has once again gone beyond just filling the cracks and crevices, to begin widening them.
Our dear Emotion is fortunate to only be calling the names of anxiety and pain with this visitation. These are the two names she has the most experience with; the two that she most easily coaxes into being still.
Anxiety is usually the most gentle beast. He lumbers in like a bear set on hibernating. His movements are slow and when he gets settled he’s content to wait patiently to reawaken.
Pain is the least gentle beast and therefore the hardest to coax into submission. Every time Emotion believes him to be settling down within her, preparing to rest like his other self Anxiety, and attempts to return to normalcy Pain seeks a new crack, or discovers an old crack that’s mostly healed. Pain slithers small tendrils in to latch on to the depths of these spots, then floods in behind that anchor.
The new cracks grow, split, become a chasm. The healed spots are worse though. When Pain splits a healed crease, it not only reopens the wound but also deepens it. Pain can’t help this; this portion of the beast deals a double blow because of the promises we make to ourselves when the darkness first leaves us.
We make promises that we know deep down will be broken, but the promises are psychological protection to allow some healing before the inevitable occurs. We know the pain will return. We know when it does it will be due to us breaking the promise we made to ourselves last time. The promise of nevermore. Nevermore will you let someone hurt you. Nevermore will you shrink yourself down to fit in another world. Nevermore will you allow yourself to become a watered down version of yourself for someone else. Nevermore.
It’s a beautiful lie we tell ourselves in the aftermath of the pain. It’s the mental equivalent to throwing open the windows in the first warm, sunny day after a dreary winter.
But the lie is as ephemeral as the sunlight and warm air we let in through that open window.
One day all those thoughts will be running through your head as you stand there wondering if it was all a mistake of memory, a creation of memory, all the while absentmindedly rubbing the beast within so gently, so calmly, it almost seemed to be thinking the same thing as her…
Welcome home old friend. Sit with me awhile and let’s wait to see if you have time to hang around or if your visit shall be short lived this time….